How do you folks feel about adultary if you actually do it for Love, not just sex, stories welcome?

I for one believe in marriage and being committed. However, I'm afraid if I get married, I may actaully meet the person of my dream, (cuz that's the irony of life right??)


Or my husband may fall in Love with someone else, therefore marriage is a difficult concept for me to grasp, however:





Would you leave your spouse if you fell for someone else??





Or would you gut out that marriage no matter what??How do you folks feel about adultary if you actually do it for Love, not just sex, stories welcome?
Well first of all, I would never compromise in marriage: I'd BETTER be in love, or I simply would not get married! Love is the foundation of a good marriage, and if you don't have that, you leave yourself wide open for all kinds of temptations...





Throughout a marriage, of course, it is natural to eye others now and again and perhap wonder...do you have to ACT on that? NO. A mature person doesn't, realizes there is more than one person right for them in a lifetime and ';gets'; the fact that once a commitment is made, vows are meant to be honored in working out life's marital issues and problems. Truly if all else has failed and both are no longer interested in preserving the marriage, their is no longer the foundation to fall back on.





If you have to ask the question here, of getting out of a marriage when clearly, methinks you perhaps have not been in love, then hopefully? -You will someday marry for love and other commonalities you and your prospective husband share. But nothing subsitutes for deep, abiding love that you build on - a life together with home and familiy...nothing. Taking the ';hits'; as a couple devoted to surviving the rough times...like most of us have.





My advice is, don't EVER marry for anything less than giving your heart as a whole and BELIEVING in marriage as a lifelong commitment, or you will sorely be disappointed. Sometimes when life's problem are heavy on your marriage, all you have LEFT, is that love for one another - and that means everything, simply everything.





Sincerely,





GraceHow do you folks feel about adultary if you actually do it for Love, not just sex, stories welcome?
You do not ';fall'; for someone else. In order for that to happen you have to put yourself in a situation where it is possible. If you are a good spouse, you choose not to put yourself in those situations, ever. You don't start confiding in friends of the opposite sex about marriage problems, you don't go out drinking with friends alone, and so on...








The ';it just happened'; excuse is a crock of sh*t.
marriage is partnership with the corner stones of respect, loyalty, committment and communication.the women i cheated with almost literally climbed in my lap nude my job no longer leave me open for night activity so to speak divorce is when the spouse finds out of the affair. i would leave only when my wife says get out an we r going to court
Some better questions may be:


1. How do you differentiate Love vs Sex?


2. If you truly loved someone, why would you leave for another?


3. Why not redefine your concept of marriage?


4. Are you able to define commitment, and what it means to you?


Relax, the future isn't here yet. You have no idea what you may, or may not encounter down the road when you've acquired the maturity to tackle your dreams......鈾モ櫏
If this is your way of thinking, maybe you shouldn't get married. Loving someone unconditionally isn't thinking in the back of your mind ';maybe the person of my dreams is still out there';. Why would you marry with that mindset anyway? When you marry, you're committing to that person FOR LIFE...not for the moment.
obviously if you are marrying that person they should be the one you are in love one. you shouldn't be out there looking or waiting for someone else to come along. one yu will be stuck in a crappy marriage and two what if you have kids with who you marry what would that do to them!
If you feel that way, don't get married. Only get married if you are one hundred percent certain and in love. I have no doubts about my marriage. There is no one better for me in the world than my husband.
If this person is not the man of your dreams you shouldn't get married and hold out for the mind blowing romance you feel you deserve.
That's why people try to marry the person of their dreams to avoid all conflict in between.





I would never put myself in the position to fall for another man
if you do it for love, then you would've left the current spouse, duh!