Will this marriage succeed?

I have seen similar questions here on YA, just wanted to ask WOMEN for their honest opinions.





In your lives, with you personally, friends and family, do rebound marriage work out? You are a 28 year old woman, dump your boyfriend of 4 years and marry some other guy 4 months later. You loved the guy so much and had no problems, he was just stalling to marry you and you got desperate and did not think clearly....You ADMIT that when you got married (one year ago) that you were completely in love with the other guy, you just felt desperate to get married. You still have semi feelings for the other guy one year later and deep down sometimes feel you should have waited for him. You admit your husband treats you very well, but you realize that you still have feelings for the other guy and you still question your decision. How will this marriage work? Will you just fall in love with your husband and forget your ex?





Ladies, please HONEST answers...Will this marriage succeed?
The real question is - do you really love your husband? If you love your husband, you need to work on that relationship. It is ultimately up to the two of you how this ends or doesn't end if you know what I mean.





I know of a couple of situations where this has happened. A neighbor was 22 and had dated this guy for 4 years. He was about to pop the question - bought the ring but hadn't given it to her yet. She knew he was planning this and got scared. She went out with someone else hit it off and so she broke up with the other guy. Within a month she was pregnant with the new guys child. They married 3 years ago and are expecting their second child. She couldn't be happier. My parents married after 2 months together from both of them rebounding. They made it 20 years before they divorced.





Now, I was with my husband for 4 years before we married. We have made it 21 years so far. Life changes with our choices. Just remember you have to make the choice that you believe will ultimately make you happy. No one else can do this for you.





Good luck to you.Will this marriage succeed?
Clicking on your profile, I see that you have asked 37 questions over the last year, of which the large majority are variations on ';Will this marriage last?'; You have asked this so many times, I wonder if this is like an obsession for you. Please, get counseling so that you can finally move on in your life.
Rather than question if it will work or not why don't you assume it will work and try your hardest to make every aspect of it work every waking moment? Most married people realize their marriages aren't perfect but make the most out of their days by being there for their spouse and treating them as though they were their only love. From your question it's obvious you will be divorced within 2 years since you just don't get it and are too immature to make any marriage last.
I personally cannot imagine loving anyone else the way I love my husband. To me it gotta be true love, or single. I know that there are women who are more concerned about being married, than being with the man that they can be in love with for the rest of their lives. I don't think that they can be truly happy, ever, and they wll always be looking for 'substitutes' in life, which can be anything from spending time away from the hubby, doing her own thing instead of being best friends, to thinking about other men. Just my opinion...
Honestly? If the sex is good, and you don't have any money or health troubles, then you will probably be okay. Without good sex, forget it, and/or if you add in the stress of money or bad health, you'll be second guessing yourself forever.
Dear Parkland,





The real question is: do you want your current marriage to work. Are you willing to invest the energy in making it a live-long-adventure.





If you answer that question first, the rest of the issues may be easier to manage.





Anthony
That's screwed up. You are at a higher likely hood for divorce and/or infidelity. You lied at your wedding vows and did a real disservice to your husband.
Feelings are too complicated and must be sorted by going to regular marital counseling sessions.
if you love yes but you wont forget your ex you will love him and when you and your hubby break up you want your ex but hes not there get your ex before he moves on.
u never forget the one u love and u cant be afraid of hurting someone else at the expensive of being miserable urself... u have to b true to ur heart.
The best way to make it work is to cheat on your husband with the other guy. Often.
rebound relationships rarely work in the long run....
I know you want the ladies to answer but I, as a man, can not help but give you my opinion. Just take a deep breath and consider that at this point in your life you are married - and, of course, not to your first choice - but, in all likelihood, if not married, still waiting for the earlier boyfriend to ask for your hand in marriage. Did you ever consider that some men will never marry? And that, if they should marry, are unwilling to make any adjustments?





Yes, not asking you after being together for 4 years, tells you something. If you have not yet figured out the message, check out my source.
Anyone who is in this situation and jumps from one relationship quickly into another has self-esteem issues.





A quick marriage is a temporary fix for a long term problem....except in this case, it simply complicates the resolution of that problem. And since one who did this, likely chose someone on the same page.





And so in less than two years, the two of them look at each other and say, ';What WERE we thinking?'; or else have two years of a really terrible relationship and wonder, ';What happened?';





There are lots of people who do this......the smart ones get some help before they ruin too many years of their lives and the lives of others.





The stupid ones go even further and believe that having a child will heal the whole thing and make the marriage work. It doesn't, and now there is some innocent child in this mess.





The best thing to do when one finds one's self so needy is to get some counseling, and get a bit grounded, and figure out what is it in your personality that requires you to be partnered....with just anyone!!!!! And Right now!!!





Because in the deep recesses of one's reason, that person knows this will not work, but doesn't care...at least for the moment.





(And no, you were not completely in LOVE, you were completely in LUST. And there is a difference!)





In essence, these people a ';love junkies.';
You're asking the wrong ones if this marriage will succeed. I can only assume that in reality the scenario you present is you. If so, you married for the wrong reasons and now you find yourself questioning your decision. You are the only one that can your marriage and the depends on what you are willing to put into it. The chance is that the guy you dumped over a year ago has hopefully moved on and is happy with his life unlike you. Marriage is a commitment you make because you truly love the one you have chosen. It's not something that you decide one year later you are going to dump like you did your boyfriend of 4 years. My advice. Quit playing games with life before you end up being the one to get hurt and possibly dumped.
There is no way to tell you. It could turn out differently in different situations. YOu probably feel that you made a mistake, but don't. YOu have to move on with your life and stop looking at what you left behind. When you made those wedding vows under GOD they were there for a reason and every DAMN thing happens for a reason. Forget your EX- you weren't happy thats why you left him. YOu are married now... move forward and talk to your husband..... not about the stuation... but about your marriage... build goals and dreams together and focus on them.... Marriage is a serious thing... its not something you just pick up and drop whenever you feel like it... it is a foundation... a commiment... for better or for worse.... Just be happy... live happily... move forward... you have gone too far to turn back... and if you turn back you might just lose the best thing you've ever had. NO the Ex will not be better. His love for you will never be the same... don't make up excuses or tell yourself lies.... its already there before your eyes....he's probably moved on by now and even if he isn't with anyone....he certainly will not take you forever.