How do you see your spouse?

the other day i asked my parents and my hubby's parents the following question, i was surprised as how each of them answered. i asked


'when you look at your husband/wife who do you see? do you still see the pretty little girl/handsome boy you married or do you see them as they actually are?


my mum said she still sees the really cute boy she fell in love with.


my mum-in-law says she sees him as he is. my dad said he sees the old woman mum has become while my dad-in-law says to him his wife is and always will be that shy little miss he fell in love with.


so how do you see your spouse? and if you don't mind telling me how long you've been married and your ages i would appreciate it.


their answers just got me to wondering just how we each perceive our mates - thank you in advance and have a really great day!How do you see your spouse?
I see the beautiful, innocent, Loving person that he is within. We have been married 17 years, %26amp; never have I in any of that time been in doubt of how he felt for me. He is my rock %26amp; a grounding force for me. We are total opposites on how we meet the world %26amp; handle just about everything. It seems what I am not that is his strength %26amp; what he is not is mine. We compliment each other in so many ways. There have been clashes thru the years, but they have only added to us rather than taken anything from us. This is a second marriage for both us, %26amp; I had actually given up on dating %26amp; was a single parent for 13 years when he walked into my life. So many people have added to me %26amp; helped to shape who I am today %26amp; sometimes I wonder if he knows just how much he has helped me find my wings! I am the luckiest woman in the world! Thru all those lonely years all I wanted was someone who would love me, seems I got my prayer answered!


Thank You for this question, I think I am going to go give him a big hug right now. Sometimes we all just need to count our blessings %26amp; He is one of mine!


Blessings!How do you see your spouse?
I'm 62 and my husband is 67 and we've been married 21 years (second marriages). Under normal circumstances I still see my husband as he looked when we first met. Than sometimes, like when we're in separate parts of a store) I'll see him as he looks now and almost not recognize him. The same thing has happened with my children because I still see them as little girls. I think the shock at seeing them as they really are is wondering how did this happen? Where did the time go and how much do I have left?
The years have been hard on my husband - a 30% disability from Desert Storm that causes daily pain along with poor health have, I am sure, aged him. But I still see the rock jawed, tanned, big shouldered man I married 24 years ago. To this day all I have to do is think about him and I smile.





Thanks for the question - I'm sitting here grinning like an idiot.
My poor husband. He works so hard. During the days at one business and nights/weekends at the other. Despite his hard work, the failing economy is killing us.





Therefore, he's been drinking too much and it worries me more than the thought of being homeless.





I think he's a great husband, a great father and the most spectacular grandfather two little children could ask for.
my wife use to be the greatest thing that ever happen to me.she was very smart,good looking and caring.we have been married 14 years,well now she lets her 34 y/o son run her life and things are not like they use to be.she's not as smart as she use to be,but i put up with it because i love her.
My husband and I were married for 26 years and up until the day he died, I could see the gray, but what stood out most for me was the youthful twinkle in his eye and his engaging smile, as handsome as he was the day we were married.
I'm 40 and don't have a husband, but I see the dear, innocent little boy or girl in those I care for, romantically or not, alongside the person they are in this minute and the wise old man or woman I imagine them becoming.
I married for the first/only time at age 37. We have been together 19 years. I see my husband as the wonderful man I chose to spend the rest of my life with. We have both physically aged a bit but are more in love than ever. Awwwwwwwwwwwww...I waited a long time to pick the right one.
I've never been married but one day in 1998 dad was looking at mom's passport which was issued in 1952 and said, ';Look at your mother. She hasn't aged a day! She looks exactly the same!'; Mom is still beautiful but, of course, she has aged. But not to dad.
When my girlfriend, she was everything a man could wish for in my eyes.That was over 40yrs ago, and since then, not one single thing has changed my young friend.
All I can do now is have a glimpse of what she used to be and only see what she is now, as I am, old and wrinkly.
I see her as she is, and fortunately, the more she matures and blossoms - the prettier the flower.
twenty years later, he's much the same as he was when I met him... slender, strong, cutie.... just a few more gray hairs in the beard.... still has those laughing blue eyes and bowed legs that were so cute, too!....
i see her as exactly the day we met! because that was only 5 years ago! (both l8 40's.)sometimes,she still wears the same sweater as the day we met-so,not to difficult to remember that day!
Well, sometimes I see the boy, but every once in a while I see an old man creepin in鈥h no, I guess that鈥檚 just my moods ruling my eyes...
I saw him as he was when I am met him when he was eighteen.It was still amazing until 2 years ago for 54 glorious years. I was so lucky.
I see her in my dreams as the beautiful woman I fell in love with. She died about 30 years ago, 4 months after we married.
Once I lift his face up off his neck he looks the same as the day we met. :-)
Please stop a moment and consider this


think about this and see if true of your own experiences





The magnificent things about ';the mind's eye'; -


--- the first time you see an individual ---


each time you think of the person


that is the image you get in your mind.





I first saw my sweet lady walking through some glass doors coming into an office building------she was nineteen ------- today she is seventy six and when i look at her now i still see her as nineteen.





June 12, 2009 we shall have been married fifty years---


and i thank Our Lords for each nanosecond of happiness with her.
I saw him for years, as the person I had fallen in love with, funny, kind, caring, a good friend, my best friend, fascinating to just sit on the beach and talk to, watch the sunset, someone I had a lot of common interests with, and a great lover, ageless, always made me smile.





Unfortunately I am not even sure that person even existed or if it was just a con.





When he changed it was very hard at first to see realityand not the memory. To see him for what he had become, and that the things he did were unforgivable, like the cheating, the verbal abuse, the lying, the drinking, and not still see him as the person I had believed he was. And wanted him to be.





I have had to force myself to face up to the fact that, if the person I fell in love with even existed, who my heart always wanted to forgive, doesnt anymore.





He is long dead and gone, and the selfish jerk has either revealed his true colours or taken over his body. Its sad because part of me will always see him, from a distance, which is the safest place to be, as the great guy I gave my heart to.
my mum always said she married the cutest boy ever and to the day she died she would say whenever she came out of the shops and saw dad sitting on the tailgate of their truck with the dog waiting for her - her heart would flutter an extra beat or two - because right then at that very moment it was like she went back in time and there was the cutest boy happy to sit with the dog and share a burger while she did the shopping. she would get this far away look in her eyes for a moment or two and then shake it off and laugh at herself - but y'know i believe her - he always was the cutest boy ever in her eyes.


[they were married 40 years and in their late 50's when she passed.]
what an interesting q





we have been together over 8 years, im 31, hes 26


(yeah im a cradle snatcher wanna make soemthign of it haha ;-D )


i still see the same gorgeous looking guy i knew he was gonna be


the same odd funny, and big liped hottie


he still sees the same small, cute, odd girl , with gorgeous dark hair and small hands





its funny, beause we have both changed in many ways looks wise, and yet, still look so similar


so we see the same things, but just maturer, better, older etc





have a great day yourself too


;-)