Is an affair with your true love a sin?

We met when we were young and fell deeply in love after a year of friendship. Circumstances pulled us apart, but never far enough so as not to still love and want each other even with other partners. We have both since married and I have a daughter. He contacted me and we met and made love. I ended it and told him that it was the last time we'd ever see each other. Its been almost a year and he's found me again and I find myself obsessing about him. His marriage is on the rocks and mine, although I love my husband, has never been very strong. I keep thinking of my daughter and how this would affect her not to mention my husband and what this would do to him. My family will be emigrating, which is why my lover and I wanted to meet up one last time, but I'm torn...please help me.Is an affair with your true love a sin?
you are going to do a great mistake in your life, if you do the thing which is in your mind..


i suggest don't do that.


it is a sin, for an indian lady to think of other man after marriageIs an affair with your true love a sin?
you broke the vowels and it's on your head if this goes wrong later on.


you haft to live with that thought that you did this to your husband and child.


this is wrong in the eyes of GOD. you needed to just leave it a lone and never have done this in the first place.


sham on you.
it is a sin as u already have a husband. forget your ex-lover. u r his second hand, and if his marriage was not 'on rocks', he wouldn't have bothered about u. think of the lives u'll harm if u get on with it, urs, his, ur husband, whom u luv, ur daughter, his wife....is it worth it? y did he contact u now but not b'fore ur marriage if he loves u? ignore him, u have already made a mistake, don't repeat it again...


give urself more time and u will realize dat ur husband is far better than ur true 'love'. in due time, u will learn 2 luv ur husband.
If u were so much in love,why didn't u wait 4 each other?U're making a big mistake by getting involved in an extra-marital relationship.Stay with ur husband,think about ur daughter 4 God's sake
Please excuse me. I like to suggest you to love your duty more, towards daughter and husband than physical attachment for someone, who has come to your conjugal life later. Love is always divine but physical attachment towards a person other than your husband is nothing but delusion.
Dont do the things which your heart dont give permission. If your heart is clear %26amp; you want to meet up last time then meet up with your family, so you wont be having any guilty that you have'nt meet him %26amp; you wont be feeling sorry to committ something
leave him alone you are going to tear your daughters life apart
B clear abt some facts first..... u hav an affair is perfectly fine but under d impression of sincere love......answer this Question 2 urself n u'l find a way out....get going u may end up with an unforgettable-memorable moment....ALL D BEST
If you have to ask, then you know the answer. If having an affair with anyone could be justified, and you felt it so, you wouldn't feel guilty enough to be asking on these boards.
you are still a cheater,yes it is a sin.
It is a sin because u have already given your vows to someone else. I know u want to see him again but personally, I don't think that's a good idea. Cut ties with him once and for all and concentrate on your own family.
loving your true love is your personal feeling but showing your true love in public where your own family is at stake is not the right thing. start believing that what ever happens it is for the best for you there has to be some valid reason for not getting your true love as your husband. And if you have started your family with kids it would be injustice with them if you ignore tjheir feelings now that you have grown enough learn to sacrifice your emotions and give your children priority
Hi,





I've been through a similar mirror-like situation like yours and my advice....4GET IT SISTER JUST 4GET IT, IT'S NNOT WORTH IT!!! I'll tell you why.....it's not love, its not obsession, its just plain adultery, its about the sex or how good you feel when you commit this lustful sin...I know you have feelings for your ex, we all do but their called **** buddies, people you can count on to have a quick wham bam thank you sir/maa'm.





Think of it this way, if you were happily married to this man, what makes you think your marriage wouldn't be on the rocks if he was screwing someone else behind your back and the only ones that ever suffer in these situations are the KIDS, the INNOCENT KIDS.....so grow up, face reality and let go, its easier to give up a living being but its harder to forget a person who has passed away.





My final words are don't ruin what you have, cause you know what your one last fling and all the ones prior to that will all come back in this life itself to bite in back in the ***...its called KARMA.!!!





Good luck and be strong...cheers.
i believe in love fully


but with your case, end of the day its your husband and your daughter going to suffer. i would suggest is dont meet him because even though u think its last time, there's no last time in life, u will keep continuing it so tell youself NOand be strict to yourself. it's beet if you go away from your lover for ever rather than putting his and your marriage in problems.
well, the answer to that i say is simple- if one or both of you is no longer free, (attached to someone else) and you still see each other and worse have sex together, then that's definitely a sin- true love or not.
Here we go...two dogs in heat!!!....Cheating is wrong, it sucks! If you can not be true to your hubby, then leave him.
it is not a sin if both of u r not married. how do u know that his marriage is not working well. he might have told u to get u. u have a loving husband %26amp; darling daughter. stop this nonsense %26amp; be sensible . how can u believe a man who ditches his wife for another lady %26amp; how can he believee u when u r spoiling your husband's %26amp; daughters life for another man ? tomorrow if u find another man attractive u might go for him ?it was stupid of you to get married to another man when u were in love with somebody. now don't u think that u will become a disgrace to three families concerned.?
If you truly love this other man and not your husband tell him. it's going to hurt him but you cannot stay with someone you do not love because it'll make yourself feel worse.





If you do decide to stay with your lover make sure you'll always be there for you daughter and explain to her what's going on coz it'll be hard for ehr as well.
cheating is wrong pls don do that to your husband
i dont understand what ever you mean by saying';he has found me again';..........perhaps the way you say it looks like you were trying to avoid him.if you would say any thing like';i've found him';,then probably i wouldn't have answered your question.any way i sincerely feel you have stopped loving him(assuming that you were loving him before).so please dont waste your daughter's life for his or your pleasures.
it is a sin but there is a way to clear it. go to church and ask father to show u the way
Pay attention to your family.Past is best forgotten.Just because you think that your love for your husband is not strong doesnt give you excuse to meet your ex flame.Work hard on your marraige.Remember marraige is a sacred institution.


Why should your family suffer because now after all this time you want to love some one else?
this is not a real relationship, its a fantasy ... the attraction is the danger of it ... in reality, neither of you is a prize, you both are cheaters ... no doubt the reason his marriage collapsed .... do you really want to be another notch on his belt? give yourself a reality check, there is nothing romantic about this guy, he is a manipulator looking for an easy piece





if you were really deeply in love, nothing would have come between you, you would have both made the effort to overcome circumstances .. stop kidding yourself
i will answer the question ';is an affair with your true love a sin';


yes of cos its a sin.from your story ,you already commited adultery and you need to be sorry about that ,if not for your husband then to God.You should have married the other guy when you had the chance to.since you both have different families now,stop what ever affiar that you are ahving with him.it is a sin b4 man and God.you know that its not fair to your husband.so do the right thing.
Its a complicated question.No one can answer that.Ask Ur self w/c is important,Ur daughter or Ur feeling.
no matter how much you love each other, it is a sin coz you are not married.
very difficult to say. Sex and love is different. Sex and love with wife good.
no, there is nothing wrong in making love with ur true love. u know u have said that ur husband is not so strong. let him get married with someone else. and you can meet up secretly and make love. this would sound comfortable if u never said it to ur husband and daughteer.
there will never be one last time! I believe the first time when you made love to him it was for the first and last. but alas you see he want it again! so just go dont make the same mistake again.
admit it, you f*cked up! and you fu*ked up big time!





true love..bull ****! what happened to the love for your daughter? how could you bring yourself to put your ';true love'; before your daughter?





either get a divorce or dont see this man ever again,
The story of my life.





Anyway the fact that you loved this man may not be a sin as you call it depending on why you broke up initially although I doubt that the reason is cause enough to call your love for each other a sin. However, the fact that you did break up %26amp; move on to marry other people who you obviously dont love is a sin. You dont get married in holy matrimony if you dont love one another %26amp; if you do, it is a sin. Then theres the adultery.. Noe you have already commited a huge sin %26amp; re reasoning is obvious.





I think that you know the answer to this question without anybody having to answer. You are thinking with your heart %26amp; acting on those feelings. Remember that no matter what hell you have created for yourself, it is not your place to drag down your daughter %26amp; loving husband with you.





Think about this.. What good will sleeping with your ex bring about? Do you beleive that you will stop loving him after the last time? Consider yourself lucky that you havn't been caught thus far %26amp; both yours %26amp; his marriages are at least still in tact.





What would Jesus do?