How do make this women not fall in love with me? EDIT?

This is the reason why i want her to not fall for me or even hate me. To keep the story short, i am 23 lesbian. The women i fall for is 15 yrs older then me. Her husband is my best friend. I always have some sort of feelings for her, but she is married and i didn't think it would be possilbe she would love me back. Well, i guess nothing is impossible now, she ask me one night if i like her, i didn't response at that time, but she said because of the way i treat her, she is starting to fall for me, i was shock. We did have a chance to sleep together, but i stopped her, especially when she had a bit to drink. After 3 month i decided to leave and came to England. I really lover her, therefore, i don't want to destroy their marriage, she told me once if something happen between them is not my fault but i feel like it would be. We still keep in touch and talk on the phone everyday, we both care about each other, i never cross the line though. one is someone you love, one is your best friendHow do make this women not fall in love with me? EDIT?
You were right not to persue this relationship....if her marriage ends it must be because she/they couldn't make it work, not because of a third party.


If or when her marriage does fail and she becomes single, you be able to have a relationship with her then without the guilt of having being the cause of the break up.


As for her husband being your friend.....cross that bridge when you come to it!!!!How do make this women not fall in love with me? EDIT?
you are a good person ...not to cross that fine line in the sand! you don't have to make her hate you , just tell her that her hubby is your best friend an you don't want to come between her an the hubby. you can also tell her you are getting back with one you used to date an you want to make this work with her. she should back off then. good luck!
Your own judgement and concience tell you what is right and wrong and should be able to overrule your heart. The heart is a great storyteller and has no problem lying to you.





You have expanded your physical world, but have not expanded your mental world. There are too many people in the world to feel you have to involve yourself with someone who is married. They still have plenty of marriage mix in their head and do not see you clearly.
That is very honorable of you - I agree with the others tho, she may already be in love with you. Can't stop those feelings. I wish you the best of luck. Hope you can find in your heart, the answers you need.
sounds like she loves you gd luck
You have done everything right but one thing STOP TALKING TO HER ON THE PHONE.Give this thing more time before you talk on the phone it will blow over.
Well, explain to her that you love her dearly but that you don't want to come in between her marriage. I applaud you for being so respectful towards a marriage and not allowing her to commit infidelity with you. Tell her that you just don't feel right being with someone who is already married and that you don't want to be the reason for any ones pain %26amp; suffering. If she cannot understand your simple request, you'll have to drop contact.
i think you are very noble for trying not to interfere in her marriage even though you are in love with her. most people wouldn't care.


as far as stopping her from falling in love with you, i'm afraid it may be too late. it sounds like she already loves you.


good luck to you both. i hope you can both find love and happiness either with each other or other partners.
Wow very interesting. I can only wish you the best.