Monday, August 16, 2010

What if you can't remember why you fell in love with your spouse?

Or even any part of that being in love feeling? I'm having marrigage trouble and ppl have often suggested to think about how I fell in love with my husband, but I can't remember. I don't know for sure if it's because I wasn't in love or because I just can't remember. But I can remember being in love with other guys who I know I really loved.What if you can't remember why you fell in love with your spouse?
Sometimes when you're so hurt or angry at someone it's hard to find the good anywhere and you wonder what you ever so in them. But you did at one point or you never would've married him. What's important is how you feel now and if you have enough feeling for him to try to salvage the marriage. Good luck to you.What if you can't remember why you fell in love with your spouse?
This is so sad...why get married in the first place??? My husband is the beginning....the middle...and the end for me! Think about it!
Should have written it down, I guess?
Sometimes when you have reached bottom it is hard to see the top! Talk to your spouse, go for a date (just the two of you) make each other a priority! Try this for a few weeks and if you still cant ';feel the love'; I think you have a pretty clear decision to make. Clear but not easy!


Also when you are in a relationship for so long it is easy to think of all the good times with your exs but remember they are an ex for a reason and sometimes it is nice just to know you could still have someone else, if you wanted!
life goes on
well you can start by finding something you love about him now..and grow on that.
hmm... i think this is your way of telling yourself its over thats what it sounds like to me if you cant remember why you fell in love with him it should be the same reason why you love him now i hope you guys dont have children then it wont be to late to cut and run i can tell you that trying to fall back in love with someone isnt easy at all its nearly impossible dont lie to yourself evaluate your situation and try to figure out the best outcome for both of you guys .... good uck
Sometimes we confuse the idea of being in love with actually being in love...it happens more often than you might think.
Life isn't a dress rehersal....you only get one chance to play....if you're not happy...and can't remember why you love him...and if you don't feel like you love him anymore....get out....you're not doing him any favours either....you both deserve people who are going to love you
Does he remember falling in love with you?





If your mad at him about something it can totally alter your feelings.





Why would you have married someone you didn't love come on now.... how old are you?





I mean I forget stuff since i have gotten older but feelings can change because of different reasons, you can grow apart from not spending time together or just develop different interests in life. Some people just make the wrong choice. Sounds like selective memory loss, very strange actually...





Maybe check on a physical reason for memory loss.





Life is way too short for such complacency, marriage without love is so sad. Sorry for you....
try getting to know him again. it's easy to lose the connection with someone when you spend so much time with them. take a little time to find the man you once loved.
Then it is time to move on! It sounds like you have done some soul searching and he is not there. Too bad. I often ask people what attracting you to him.....since likes gravitate, you must have had something in common whether it was bad self esteem or fulfilling a codependant need. If you can not remember that is not good for future relationships. You truely must examine why this relationship turned out the way it did to avoid this from happening again.





Maybe you have both grown into individuals instead of growing as a pair. Try independent living and go out on dates. Maybe then you will rediscover the love you have been missing, or maybe you need to date others to discover the love of a partner you SO deserve in this life here on Earth. Either way, you know what is best for you, be sure to DO it.





Good luck, I hope you are happy soon with Love in your life.
sounds to me...... that you are one lost girl........





you better find something to hold onto.... before your life spirals out of control.
Well hopefully at one point the love you had for your husband was clear or you would not have married. If you have been married for awhile, it may be that you need to find a new ';spark'; within your marriage. Try taking time for just you and your husband to do something special like the two of you did before you became a married couple. Often it is easy to let that flame die out, however, equally as easy to light it back up when two people truly try. If you are truly finding that the love is no longer, then you should seek some counseling or even divorce.
Pain usually causes people to have selective memory. When the pain is so great, it often masks why we fell in love and makes us question our own feelings.


You sound like you have been through the ringer and I know that feeling all too well.


If you are hurting, then hurt. Don't try to explain it away by wondering why you fell in love in the first place. Just concentrate on getting past this and making your marriage work; that is if you want it to work.


Don't be so hard on yourself. If you've been together for any amount of time, there will be times when you won't be able to stand looking at them or even listening to the sound of their voice.


THIS IS NORMAL!


Everyone has a breaking point and you've come to a crossroads and right now, you don't know which way to go.





The best thing that you can do is to do a pro's and con's list of your spouses good and bad points. Reevaluate how you feel after you make the list and go from there.


Also, communication is key when there are hurt feelings involved. Seek counseling from your minister or if you can afford it, see a therapist who can help you guys weather through this storm.


I wish you the best!

No comments:

Post a Comment