Deployed husband is hurting my feelings?

I know hes going through allot right now but he comes home the 23rd of december and i was talking to him about getting stockings with our names sewed in them to start our little family tradition. I told him about it he says why whats the point and im like the point is its starting a family tradition hes like its a waste of money!!





He is worse then a girl he always has a openion and its frustrating! also i have been told you fall in love with your husband all over again because he is so sweet when he is deployed! all i want to do is hit mine in the face! hes being rude i never get emails from him saying how he misses or loves me or a email over 3 words at that we don't ever talk when he cals =( his emails consist of i love you


i miss you or simply hey. i don't get long ones . im just wondering why hes being such a butt!Deployed husband is hurting my feelings?
He's had to deal with all that crap plus he hasn't been able to hold you in how long? That's so rough on a guy. All he wants right now is to hold you in his arms. That's it. So forget about everything except sex %26amp; food and after he's had a fill of those then he'll be much more amenable.





Guys aren't into traditions and stuff like that. He should be more understanding that you are, but he's young and under stress. In the future when stuff like this comes up smile and tell him that you know it's not a guy thing but it's important to you so could he please at least be supportive.Deployed husband is hurting my feelings?
Being over there your life stops while your loved ones lives continue back at home. Everybody handles deployements diferently but he should still figure out a way to continue his part in the relationship, ya'll still have to support eachother rather its in the means of love, reasurrance, affection. So, dont take his actions too personally but he needs to realize and do what he can for your needs
His buddies are around and he might get teased if he's all sweet and romantic. Also, maybe he doesn't know what to say because what he's going through might be hard for him to talk about so he probably prefers you tell him how you are doing and that you love and miss him.
The man is at war, cut him some slack.


Go and buy the stockings, decorate the house with them for when he comes back.


If he is a sourpuss all the time, tell him it's affecting the relationship negatively.


Give him amazing sex when he comes home.


Voila.
Maybe you should start by telling him how you feel, but he is going through a lot, too. You both need to try to be there for each other during this difficult time, and he is a man you cant fault him for that. Good Luck!
You try making out long ';i love you I adore you etc'; emails while bombs are going off in your ears. He's at war sweets, he stands a chance at NOT coming home or coming home in a body bag. Get real! Grow the hell up.
Yup! I went thru that..I divorced him.





Not all men handle deployment the same.
the mideast brings out the worse in men,
Ok first of all, get over it. Your husband is fighting for our country and all you can do is complain because he doesn't care about stockings. Did you ever think that maybe, just maybe he isn't worried about family traditions because he is afraid that he won't make it home? As far as him always having an opinion about things, why shouldn't he. Marriage is 50/50 dear and that means that BOTH of you will have your own thoughts and opinions. You should consider your husband a hero and stop crying about stockings. First you say that you don't get emails telling you that he misses you and then on the next line you say that he says, '; I love you I miss you or simply hey. Sounds to me that you are just looking for any excuse to leave him. Maybe he would be better off if you did that way he could focus on staying alive and not putting up with nonsense over decorations.
You sound INCREDIBLY YOUNG. This is a problem with kids who get married. If you want your marriage to last you are both going to have to do some maturing very quickly. You can start by not fighting over such childish things. He is a guy and is not interested in silly things such as names on Christmas stockings. Get the stockings and do it yourself. If you want to talk about holiday decorating to someone, talk to a girlfriend about it. Possibly he is not communicating with you because you are boring him. Guys deployed overseas do not want to hear about decorations, they want to be turned on or hear about new things going on back home (not Martha Stewart type things).
I'm guessing that if he will be home on the 23rd, that he has been gone almost a year. That's an awful lot of stress on both of you. I know I wouldn't handle it very well.





If you husband sends an email that says, ';I love you.';, what more can he possibily add?





I'm sure he is just at the point where every littlr thing just sets him off, and that will go away when he gets back.





Get the stockings anyway and surprise him. Be glad he will even make it home for Christmas and when you have a chance, thank him for his service from the rest of us.