Husbands role
Dont hide deep feelings of guilt from your wife. if you couldnt tell her you loved her because you didn't feel any love toward her. and if your integrity was too high to lie about something so important, so you say nothing at all.
The scriptural instruction to you as husbands is to love your wives. ';Husbands, Love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy,............In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies..................................鈥?br>
{ Ephesians 5: 25- 28 }
Most men dont understand how Christ loved the church ( the people of God), and so they find it doubly difficult to love their wives in a way which they don't understand.
The greek word for how men are to love their wives is the same word God used to describe His own love for the world. ';For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whosoever belieth in him should not perish but have everlasting life. ( John 3: 16 ) Its also the same love we are to have for God.
';love the lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind'; ( Matthew 22: 37 )
What kind of love is this? The kind of love Scripture directs us to is volitonal love rather than emotional love. Scriptural love is agapao love, which means to love in a moral sense; it is a deliberate act of the will as a matter of principle, duty, and propriety.
The English word ';heart'; doesn't communicate the full weight of its intended meaning without further explanation. The heart, the inner self, is comprised of three parts, INtellect (rational), Will (volitional), feelings (Emotional)
The intellect is the rational man, the will is the volitional man, and the feelings are the emotional man. Men love your wives volitionally, as an act of the will by choice. You are not instructed to feel in love with your wife.
For both people, the loving feeling may be there or it may be not. But love is not always a feeling, and we are to love our wives first ( husbands first) as an act of our will by choice.
After we do that, feelings will come; but, they will come and go. In fact, they will come and go regularly. But the love we demonstrate is a decision made as a deliberate act of the will by choice. Biblical love is a decision, not a feeling.
Now that we have looked at the role of the husband and the wife, let's look at the four types of marriages we can create when we mix men and women together.
4 types of marriages (or) relationships
* love and submit
* Hate and submit
* love and resist
* Hate and resist
most marriages can be placed into one of these broad categories. lets look at each of them individually.
The worse marriage is Hate and resist marriage, the worst possible is the one in which both partners are unhappy, and both aim for their own selfish way.
In the hate and resist marriage, the wife nags her man, she idles the day away, and she contends with her husbands authority. Her disrespect for him displays itself at social functions, at which she makes sarcastic remarks about him that he hears for the first time. He treats his wife harshly and doesn't consider her feelings when making family decisions. Animosity and disrespect characterize his demeanor toward his wife in private, though he pretends to like her when they attend church or other gatherings. if your marriage falls short, and you are still together, it is not likely a true hate and resist marriage you would proably be divorced by now. if neither partner tries to make the marriage work, divorce is inevitable. Most marriages which are still together but not working are hate and submit or love and resist, because one partner or the other has decided to ';hang in there'; and try to make the marriage work.
The love and resist marriage
Picture this marriage as a wimpy little guy dominated by a screechy voiced battle ax, a couple like the lockhorns comic strip.
Today, the professional woman on a career path exemplifies the resistant wife. The two- income family puts extra tension on a marriage. The husband owes his wife some additional consideration around the house, even if her attuitude about it is wrong.
the housewife is not immune to the feminist movement either. The homemaker can resist by idling away her time and not managing the household effectively.
several years ago, a wife started feeling inadequate because she was ';just a housewife and a mother';. After some discussion we realized she was being influenced in her thinking by the editorial bias of certain womens magazines.
She canceled her subscriptions.
the husband in the love and resist marriage should continue to love irrespective of his wifes response. SinceAre you happily Married with your wife or Husband? part 2?
The Bible is nothing more than thoughts and interpretations as translated by humans long ago.
I have been happily married to my husband for 11 years. We love and respect each other as EQUALS. We are open and honest with our thoughts and feelings. We support each other in the choices we make as a couple and as individuals. Marriage should not consist of 'Roles' but rather or respect, love and admiration for that person who through and honest and loving marriage then becomes the very extension of yourself.
Love in this way. As it was intended.Are you happily Married with your wife or Husband? part 2?
marriage shld.b tie w/love and understanding,it can never go wrong..to give ur partner the loving,the caring and the sharing is the true essence of a long lasting marriage,w/all that promised honesty...
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