Friday, August 20, 2010

What do you do if your mother didn't get your husband anything?

A few weeks ago I went shopping with my mother and she bought a few things to give to my husband for christmas. Well we had a bit of a falling out a week ago so we haven't been talking. Well my brother came over and brought the kids gifts and gifts for me (even though we had a falling out) but the gifts my mother got for my husband she gave to someone else! I got a lot of things from her and so did our kids but my husband didn't get anything, I feel so horrible, I want to just call and tell her off! What do I do and how do I make my husband feel better and let him know I still love him and I'm sorry my mom is such a rude person?!








A little info on my mother: She use to beat me as a child but when I became an adult she told me sorry and cried with me and I forgave her. She's always had a crazy problem (she yells A LOT) and once my husband told her if she cannot control her yelling in front of our children she can no longer come around them (they would cry and run away from her when she would yell). She apologized and we told her she can come around again. My dad is always telling me she has major problems that's why he left her so long ago. My husband did nothing wrong to her so I don't know why she's like this! Just some advice would be good!What do you do if your mother didn't get your husband anything?
First of all...I'm sorry to hear about such a sad situation at Christmas. Ok that being said, first tell your husband how bad you feel (hopefully he understands that this is not your fault.) I would also consider telling your mom that you appreciate the gifts you and your children received from her, however, it really hurt your feelings that she decided to exclude your husband. Also, you said your mom has problems, it sounds like it may be time for her to look into getting some help. You may want to gently broch this topic with her as well. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes, and it's good that she says she's sorry...but you can only repeat a behavior so many times and say sorry for it repeatedly before people begin to wonder if you are truly sorry. Either she isn't sorry or she needs help to control herself. I truly hope things get better for you, hang in there.What do you do if your mother didn't get your husband anything?
keep loveing on him and let your mom go with love.
Have a talk with your mother. Confront her with a calm attitude.


Take it slow and tell her how you feel. Communication really works.





If not, take her to Dr.Phil. See a family counselor.





If your mother could apologize to your husband, that will release all the tension. If your husband could apologize to your mother, also, that would make their relationship blossom.





Hope this helps. Do not yell at your mother, it will make matters worse!





GOOD LUCK!
Well, it's clear your mother has major problems and that's why she acts this way. So, you and your husband have to take it in stride and don't get upset about it. Your husband is right in protecting the kids from her yelling. I hope you are doing the same thing. Develop a sense of humor too.


Basically, continue to let her visit when she behaves, but not if she is abusive. Forget about your husband's presents. Don't worry about it. Don't worry about it if she doesn't give gifts to you either. Or even the kids for that matter.


Just take what she has to offer that is good, and protect yourselves from the bad. Don't think about how she ';should'; be, because you have no power to change her.


Always be polite to her if at all possible.


This way, you can have the benefit of the best relationship with her that you can. Don't expect her to give more than she can or will. In fact, don't ';expect'; anything. Then everything good she does will be a pleasure for you, and you will never be disappointed.


I'm wondering why you think your mother's bad behavior would make your husband think you don't love him. If there is any reason for him to think that, you ought to reassure right now! Let him know you appreciate his protecting the kids. Tonight! While the kids are asleep. Go for it.

What would their names be? Baby name game!?

1. You’re sixteen and become pregnant. You’re so freaked out. You know you can’t keep the baby, but you don’t want to have an abortion. Luckily, you find an very nice adoptive couple who are supportive through the whole pregnancy. They also allow you to name the baby. It’s a girl, and you name her a variation of your name, so you’ll always be with her. (your real actual name). What do you name her?





2. Ten years later, you’re graduating medical school and engaged to the love of your life, ________.





3. A year after you get married, you find out you’re pregnant. It’s a boy, and you name him a name with the initials T.P. What do you name him?





4. When little T is one and a half you and your husband decide you want a little playmate for him. You become pregnant quickly, with another boy. You name him after your dad and your husbands dad (they can be variants of the name.. same meaning, etc). What do you name him?





5. Your two boys are growing! Little T is starting kindergarten and your three year old is enjoying preschool. You decide you want one more child to complete the family, and hope for a girl. It turns out to be a boy, and you name him a very popular name, but give him a less common nickname. What is his name?





6. Your sons are seven, five, and two now, and you love them to death, but you are secretly praying for a little girl that you can play dolls with and braid ribbons into her hair. Then the news comes! You’re pregnant! You pray and pray it’s a girl, and guess, what it is! But not just one girl, you’ve got three little daughters! Oh my goodness! You’re overwhelmed, but also overjoyed. They’re born two and a half months early and are in the NICU for a long time, but luckily they’re healthy as horses. You give them names that mean ‘blessing’ or something of the sort to show how happy you are they are okay. And make sure their names aren’t matchy. What are their names?





7. You’re happy with your big family. Your sons are twelve, ten, and seven, and your little triplets are starting kindergarten when you get the shock of your life! You’re pregnant again! And with twins (multiples run in your family, it seems). One boy and one girl. Their initials are C.J. and J.C. What are their names?





8. You’re enjoying your eight kids (ages fourteen, twelve, nine, seven, and two) with the reassurance that you can’t have any more ☺, when your husband gets some awful news. His sister-in-law has just died of cancer. (His brother died five years ago.) They live in _______, very far away, and you hardly ever see them, but you find out that since his sister-in-law has no family, you and your husband are now the legal guardians of their three kids, ages eight, six, and five. They are two boys and one girl, and their names are all very trendy, popular names. What are their names?





9. Your oldest son is seventeen, and headed to ________University to study _______. Your two older sons are fifteen and twelve, your brother-in-law’s kids (who’ve settled in happily) are eleven, nine, and eight, your triplets are ten, and your twins are five. Life is really going great. And one day you get an email from your oldest daughter, now twenty eight, who found you through Facebook. She want’s to meet you, and you agree with joyous tears in your eyes. The next week, you meet and you fall in love with the daughter you never knew. She is now married and has two kids, a two year old daughter and a six month old son. She tells you their names and you adore them – they are two of your favorite names. You feel so connected to her! And you fall in love with your grandchildren at first sight. What are their names?





So a recap.. what are the names of the ten kids? (and your first daughter, and her kids)What would their names be? Baby name game!?
1. Aubrianna Lorraine


2. Jake


3. Travis Parker


4. Tony Paul


5. Nathan Trent, Nate


6. Rain Taylor, Grace Nicole, Keiko Victoria


7. Carmen Jarrica, Joel Christopher


8. New York. Kylie Danielle, Braden James , Jace Curtis


9. Indiana, idk lol. Audrina Camille, Trevor Cole








Aubrianna Lorraine, Travis Parker, Tony Paul, Nathan Trent, Rain Taylor, Grace Nicole, Keiko Victoria, Carmen Jarrica, Joel Christopher, Kylie Danielle, Braden James, Jace Curtis, Audrina Camille, Trevor ColeWhat would their names be? Baby name game!?
Ashtyn Eloise


Taylor Lautner


Tristan Park


Taylor Edward


Caden(Cade) Noah


Hadley Lexia


Makaiya Grace


Shiloh Hope


Cassidy Jade


Jonah Christopher


Hawaii


Dakota(Kota) Lynne, Maisie Annabelle, Finn Micah


Harvard, law


Elijah Fin and Ainsley Faith





Ashtyn with Elijah and Ainsley, Tristan, Taylor, Cade, Hadley, Makaiya, Shiloh, Cassidy, Jonah, Kota, Maisie, Finn
1) Eva Grace


2) Nathan Casanova


3) Tyler Peter.


4) Jaden Thomas


5) Aiden James, call him Mes.


6) Annabelle, Isadora, Dolly..


7) Cora Jasmine, Jamie Charles.
1. My name is Deina (DEE-nah) Ailise (ay-LEES)


Baby girl: Dana Alexis


2. Ryan Johnson. (made up, not real person!)


3. Tyler Parker


4. my dad’s name: David


Ryan’s dad’s name: Keith


Baby boy: Keith David


5. Brandyn James; nickname B


Yes, just the letter B :)


6. Mackenna Jayde, Grace Danielle, Raina Hope


7. boy: Christopher Jordan %26amp; Jaelyn Camilla


8. They live in California, we live in Connecticut


Jacob Asher


Aidan Thomas


Madison Leigh


9. Clark University to study Psychology


Amber Dolores, Austin Tanner





ALL my kids: Dana Alexis, Tyler Parker, Keith David, Brandyn James, Mackenna Jayde, Grace Danielle, Raina Hope, Christopher Jordan %26amp; Jaelyn Camilla


nephews %26amp; niece: Jacob Asher, Aidan Thomas, Madison Leigh





grandkids: Amber Dolores, Austin Tanner





:)
1. my name is ashton, my daughters name is ashlyn-jade(AJ)





2. Kyler matthew Davis


3. Teagen paul davis (teag)





4. my fathers name james, his father jack, babies name jaxcksen james


5. Michael kain Davis , NN chael(kale)


6. Azariah(helped by God) Venice (blessed) seeleigh(helped, blessing)


(zari,veni,cc)


7. Cadencee jayde, Jameson charles


8. they live in england, names B Aiden Tyler, G Leah Jane, B Liam Ryan


10. Harvard is whee my son goes to study, and my grandchildrens names are Emmersyn victoria, Fynn Danial


9. So a recap.. what are the names of the ten kids? (and your first daughter, and her kids) Teag,jack,chael,zari,veni,cc,jameson,cad… 1st daughter ashlyn-jade, grand babies, emmy,fynn
Britain Leah


Camron Ryan


Tyler Preston


Jeffrey William


Alexander Daniel (Zander)


Johanna Grace, Natania Hope, Mattea Charity


Carter Julie %26amp; Jude Carson


Tennesse; Jonathan Kenneth, Colton James, %26amp; Brooklyn Alyssa


Briar State to study emergency medicine


Bridget Jordan %26amp; Bradley Eric


Kids: Britain, Tyler, Jeffrey, Alex, Joey, Natalie, Mattie, Carter, Jude, Johnny, Colton, Brooke, Bridget %26amp; Bradley
1. Madelyn Mae


2. Tyler


3. Tyler Presley


4. Daniel Michael


5. Maximilian Patrick (but we'll call him Mr. Money bags)


6. Isabella Joy, Phoebe Hope, and Lola Grace


7. Cooper Jerome and Jamie Collette


8. They lived in Montana (we live in NY) their names are Alexander, Samuel, and Baylee


9. He's going to PSU on a lacrosse scholarship. He'll be studying sports medicine.


My grandkids are Emma Grace and Jackson Trevor





Maddie, Tyler, Danny, Max, Izzy, Phoebe, Lola, Cooper, Jamie, Alex, Sam, Baylee, Emma, and Jack
1. Katie


2. Tyron


3. Tyron Patrick


4. Kenneth Jay


5. Tyler [nickname= ty ty--he will hate me for sure--lol]


6. Olivia-Kate, Sintele Jordan %26amp; Katie Marie


7. Curt James and Chloe Jessica


I'm exhausted at this point and checking into a baby-making rehab center..:)





8. Jamaica... Jason, Brandon %26amp; Emily


9. UA to become a Vet.. Olivia- Kate and Tyson





Tyron Patrick, Tyler, Katie, Olivia Kate, Sintele Jordan, Katie marie, Curt james, Chloe, Olivia Kate and Tyson..
1. Jessie Susannah.





2. My man's name is Joel.





3. Trent Pearce.





4. Joey ';JJ'; Joseph is the only name I can come up with.





5. The obvious Michael Alexander, but his nickname is Mika.





6. Nessa, meaning ';miracle';, Matilda ';strength in battle'; and Vera ';faith';.





7. Caleb Jason and Joanna Charlene.





8. They lived in London, obviously many miles away from our Hong Kong homeland. Their kids' names are Aiden Daniel, Brady James and Madison Haleigh.





9. Trent is majoring in Audiology at Swansea University in Wales. Jessie's kids are named Madeline Isobel and Gabriel Andrew.





Overall, they are:


Jessie, Trent, Joey, Michael, Nessa, Matilda, Vera, Caleb, Joanna, Aiden, Brady, Madison, Madeline and Gabriel.








Fourteen's a lot if you ask me. (:
1. Nadia Grace (Nadia means Hope which is my name)





2. Ten years later, you’re graduating medical school and engaged to the love of your life, Alexander James (Xander).





3. Tyler Paul





4. Andrew Alexis





5. Jacob Kennedy and I nickname him Cobey (instead of Jake)





6. Beattie (Gaelic- One who grants blessings), Kemi (African- Blessing) and Raina (American - Female - Abundant Blessings from Above). There middle names are Hope, Faith and Love





7. Caiden James (James after his father) and Jessica Caitlin.





8. They live in Sydney, there names are Jayden Rhys, Michael Oliver and Emma Georgina.





9. Murdoch Uni to study Veterinary Science. There names are Lilliana Rose and Dylan Taylor.





I have Nadia Grace who had Lilliana Rose and Dylan Taylor. I have Tyler Paul, Andrew Alexis, Jacob Kennedy, Beattie Hope, Kemi Faith, Raina Love, Caiden James, Jessica Caitlin, Jayden Rhys, Michael Oliver and Emma Georgina.





So Nadia with Lilly and Dil. Tye, Drew, Cobey, Beattie, Kems, Rain, Cai, Jessy, Jay, Mikey and Em.
1. My kid: Kayla Marie (My name Kailey)


2. Love of my life: Hugh Johnson


3: Thomas Preston (Tom)


4. Boy named after dad: Blaine Hughes


5. Brandon Christopher (Randy)


6. Triplet girls: Lillian Grace, Susanna Hope, Lola Belle


7: Initiles twins: Charles James. Jessica Christine


8. Sisters kids: Landon Michael, Matthew Alexander, Ashley Marie


9. Grandkids: Bridget Renee and Luke Davis





Kayla, Thomas, Blaine, Randy, Lillian, Susanna, Lola, Charles, Jessica, Landon, Matthew, Ashley, Bridget, and Luke
1. Faina Carys (Faina means ';crown'; like my name, Stephanie, %26amp; Carys means ';love';)





2. James





3. Tyson Patrick





4. Jeffrey Dennis, ';Jeff';





5. Christopher James, ';Topher';





6. Adia Katherine, Thea Simone %26amp; Isadora Eden





7. Calista Jolene %26amp; Jude Cyrus





8. They lived in Ohio (we're in Florida). The kids names are Braden Cruz, Jacob Riley %26amp; Ava Grace.





9. Tyson is going to Johns Hopkins University to study medicine. Faina's daughter's name is Nora Giselle and her son's name is Miles Grant.





All the kids: Faina, Tyson, Jeff, Topher, Adia, Thea, Isadora, Calista, Jude, Braden, Jacob, Ava, Nora %26amp; Miles.
1. Kayla Rose ( mine Kaylee Rose )


2. Jordan Alexander Clayton


3. Tyler Payton


4. James Connor


5. Brenden Michael ( Dewie )


6. Grace Marie,Hope Lane,and Faith Daria


7. Carolyn Janene and Joshua Carter


8. Arkansas, Jacob Dane, Brian Lukas, and Alyssa Kate


9. Chicago, Science, Brooklan Mae, and Braden Jae





So all the names I put are:





Kayla Rose


Jordan Alexander


Tyler Payton


James Connor


Brenden Michael


Grace Marie


Hope Lane


Faith Daria


Carolyn Janene


Joshua Carter


Jacob Dane


Brian Lukas


Alyssa Kate


Brooklan Mae


Braden Jae


Kaylee Rose(Me)
1. Diana Renesmee


2. Aiden Mason


3. Tristan Parker


4. Edward Aiden


5. Lucas Cameron, we call him Lucky


6. Gwenyth Kylie, Isadora Piper, Rain Katherine


7. Calista Jaymes and Joshua Christopher


8. Washington. Noah Oliver, Jacob Anthony, Ava Vanessa


9. Columbia...Medicine. Olivia Paige and Cooper Daniel


Tristan, Eddie, Lucky, Gwen, Isa, Rain, Callie, Noah, Jake, Ava. First born...Dee. Grandbabies...Livie and Coop
Daughter given up for Adoption: Lauren Elizabeth





Husband: Dino Reagan





Oldest Son: Tristan Patrick





Second Son: Reagan Marc





Third Son: Tyler Jonathon (Teigh)





Triplets: Elaina Grace, Heaven Blessing, Hope Sophia.





Twins: Cassie Jacelyn %26amp; Jackson Christopher.





Lived in Jacksonville TN.





Sisters Kids are: Parker Max, Luke Carter, %26amp; Marlee Kayden.








University of Florida to study engineering.





Lauren's Children are: Ellie Sage %26amp; Logan Caleb
1. Jenna Elizabeth





2. Andrew Michael





3. Thomas Peter





4. Liam Henry





5. Elijah James ';Eli';





6. Grace Elaine, Faith Celia, and Hope Danielle





7. Caleb Joshua and Juliet Claire





8. London


Aiden Jonathan, 8


Riley Brandon, 6


Madison Paige, 5





9. Arkansas University, aquaculture


Lucia Jean, 2


Noah Alexander, 6 months





Jenna, Thomas, Liam, Elijah, Grace, Faith, Hope, Caleb, Juliet, Aiden, Riley, Madison, and little Lucia %26amp; Noah :)
1. Tahnie Julia





2. Gabriel-Gabe





3. Thomas Peter-Tommy





4. Charlie Edd-Charlie





5. James Rocko-Rocko





6. Grace Cassidy, Adorabelle Nicole and Timarah Cassandra-Grace, Belle and Tim





7. Charter Jackson and Jade Cora-Char and Jade





8. Paris


Son-Sydney-Syd


Son-Mason-Mase


Daughter-Bailey-Bailey





9. Oxford University to study Literature


Daughter-Dominique-Dom


Son-Taylor-Tay





Me (Tahna) and my husband Gabe had Tommy, Charlie, Rocko, Grace, Belle, Tim, Char and Jade. Gabes sister-in-laws children Syd, Mase and Bailey and then my first daughter Tahnies kids Dom and Tay.
1) Kiasia Lynne: My name is Kia and the adoptive parents names are Mary Lynne and Mark.





2) Engaged to Grant Emerson. His dad's name is Grant Michael Emerson II, and my father's name is James Leonard Smith.


3) Talon Preston


4) Grant Michael Emerson III


5. Louis Athen (nickname Lou-ee)


6. Ella Louise, Nicollette Lee, and Mackenna Adelle


7. Carter James, and Jaylee Cristina


8. San Diego (we live in Chicago): Luke Jacob, Bennett Keith, and Kelly Anne


9. Stanford Univ (CA).....Kiasia married Robert Jameson: Marianna Kay %26amp; Logan Robert





My Kids


Talon, Junior, Louee, Ella, Nikki, Mack, Carter, Jaylee, Luke, Benny, and Kelly.....AND Kiasia...





My grandkids: Anna %26amp; Logan
1. Madelyn Rose


2. William Thomas


3. Tyler Paul


4. Jackson Bryce


5. Jonathan Matthew ';Nathan';


6. Taylor Grace, Morgan Faith, and Reilly Hope


7. Carter James and Jane Claire


8. California, Aiden Lee, Ethan John, and Isabella Jade


9. Cornell, law, Ella Margaret and Samuel Thomas





Maddie (who has Ella and Sam), Tyler, Jackson, Nathan, Taylor, Morgan, Reilly, Carter, Jane Claire, Aiden, Ethan, and Isabella
1. Brinleigh Ann Marie


2. Wyatt Lee James


3. Treven Peter James


4. Lee Parker James


5. Caden Wyatt James ''Cade';


6. Aubriella Seraphina James,Tatianna Noelle James, Ava Harlow James


7. Cameron Jayden James and Jaylinn Carmen James


8. Los Angels, CA - We live in NY.


Ryan Micheal Samson


Dylan William Samson


Emma Leigh Ann Samson


9. Harvard, Law. Annalese Marie and Jameson Carter.





I have:


Brinleigh Ann Marie


-Annalese Marie


-Jameson Carter


Treven Peter


Lee Parker


Caden Wyatt


Aubriella Seraphina


Tatianna Noelle


Ava Harlow


Cameron Jayden


Jaylinn Carmen


Ryan Micheal


Dylan William


Emma Leigh Ann





very nice! please make more!

What do you do when your a fool in-love?

my ex husband and i have known each other for thirty years.he is 38 and so am i we have been on again and off again for 18yrs.as of now were off.he is married now but he left her for me 2yrs ago.and in that time i was diagnosed with breast cancer.while i was in chemo he was there but our finance was horrible so we lost our place.we moved seperatly with our familys and 2months ago he went back to his wife right when she was divorcing him and told my in-laws and myself that he could not bear to live with family anymore.but when i see him hes all over me.im still in radiation and i have had my surgery.so i feal just fine but im allways so depressed and sad about him.i will be in my new place soon.and i know that he will try to come back.but im scared if i take him back what if we go broke again what will he do.how do you fall out of love?What do you do when your a fool in-love?
Oh for pete's sake you have gone through enough. did you also know that women dealing with infidelity and such emotional stress in a marriage are more apt to getting diagnosed with breast cancer? Stress causes many cancers as a matter of fact. You don't need this man back in your life. You need to live for YOURSELF for once--and see how much healing from the inside and out will take place once you do. Let him go with his wife and don't take him back. I don't care if your mother's were in the same hospital giving birth at the same time and you knew each other for your whole 38 years of life. Sometimes you have to throw out the past and step boldly into the future. Don't cling to what makes you comfortable or safe. Sometimes finding true love is a risk that you have to take.What do you do when your a fool in-love?
I really wish you well through all of this. You need as much support as you can get.

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You can't tell your heart what to do, it does what it wants. That is why you should ask the advice of others and follow it.





You fall out of love by finding another one to love. I suggest you open your heart to that possiblity and move on. Good luck to you.
some days i feel like i am a fool in love, when i am with her i love this woman with all my heart,





but back to you,





??????
he is wishy washy, and isnt a real man to back his woman, you should not let him back into your life, be who you are without him, you have been through this tough time alone, and he just sits on the fence waiting till you can screw him again,





not a pleasant place to be, it is a hard thing but tell him you are through,





good luck with your cancer,
sometimes you continue loving but circumstances can ruin things....i wouldnt take him back...
Look inside your soul for the answer, what is the worst thing that could be done is to be negative. Give your heart to him and dont worry about going broke
Enjoy the good times.

What is a good book about marriage?

I am looking for a book about marriages. Specifcally something like how to rekindle the flame, how to fall back in love, how to save your marriage, that sort of thing. I want a book that doesn't preach, doesn't condem certian things, and one that is a good read. I'm also a stay at home mom, so maybe something to do with how to focus on your husband and children, not just your kids. I really love my husband and want things to work, but if we keep going the way we are now we will be divorced in a few years. Thanks in advance!What is a good book about marriage?
the book we read during counsoling was called








fit to be tied ..








dont remember the author tho





good bookWhat is a good book about marriage?
You don't need a book. A man's needs are simple and easy to fill.





All you need to do is make sure that when he gets home from work, there is a hot meal on a plate waiting for him, his socks are folded, his children are alive, and allow him a little time to come home from work and decompress before you start telling him everything you did that day. Then, when he wants sex, you give it up.





If you do that, you'll have the greatest marriage ever. Easy.
Bartenders guide. Good luck !
Hey, if you find one please let me know!!!!!!


I am with you 100% i know what you are saying!


e-mail me @ dorothymaeplemons@yahoo.com
get the book Men are from Mars and Women are frm Venus very good book
The proper care and feeding of good marriages.





There is also the proper care and feeding of good husbands.





Basically the book re-interates what you said you'd like to happen. Women tend to lose focus on their husbands once the children come.
';The Five Love Languages'; is a great book that I think would help most married couples. It doesn't fall into the category of ';rekindling the flame'; as you said but it does help couples better understand what they need to feel loved. The book is about the idea that each person needs love in different ways - or in different languages. For instance, men usually show love by providing for their family. They think bringing home a paycheck or buying you something expensive is the correct way to show love. If you're the kind of woman who needs love shown in that way, then that's great. But if you're like most women, you need to have your husband bring you flowers for no reason, listen to you, be there for you...etc. This is an entirely different love language. It basically says it's important for your partner to learn how to speak your love language.
the proper care and feeding of husbands by laura schlessinger.


every modern woman should get a copy of it when we get the free tampons at secondary school,its that vital to making a perfect marriage.


if more people read it then there would be no need for divorce.(unless your mans an abusive ***.)

I need your help.my husband revealed a shocking confessions.?

We met online Nov. of 2003.We met in person Feb. of 2004.I thought he loves me.Coz i fell in love right away.I got pregnant.We got married August of 2004.Last year,we celebrated our first year anniversary and we just went out to eat.No flowers or anything.He treated me like im his helper.Do this do that.Ive done everything he wants me to do to prove him that I love him.I helped his mom with her business too.Three days ago, he told me that when we met he didnt love me.The worst is he didnt even love me when we got married.We're married now for almost 2 years.Ive say that's cheating.He cheated on my feelings.He said that he learned how to love me .And he love me now.I dont know what to do.Pls help me.I value my marriage but i dont wanna be with someone who doesnt love me.It hurts me so much thinking that my wedding is suppose to be the happiest day in my life but it isn't after he revealed his secrets.I need your help.my husband revealed a shocking confessions.?
To have your husband trust you enough to admit he didn't love you in the past (or, maybe more accurately, he wasn't SURE he loved you) but tell you he has learned to love you and LOVES YOU NOW can be a wonderful act of love in itself. If you do love him, then stop listening with your PRIDE and listen with your heart instead.





And who says your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest in your life? Why not think of it as the first day of your life together as a family. Then there will be room for even happoer days, like your baby's birth day. Don't spend your life measuring happiness by looking backwards...look forwards instead. Good luck.I need your help.my husband revealed a shocking confessions.?
It is possible not to love a person at first and over time love to come. I believe it is best for a person to grow to love because when you learn to love, that means that they have accepted everything about that person, good and bad. And if that person stayed in the marriage, that shows that the love for has developed and grown over the course of the years you have been together. Don't fret. Growing into love is a GOOD THING!
Dear, give him one more chance since he's willing to confess. Think of it as forgiving him and at least let your child experience a full family warmth.


If it doesn't improve, then sack him out of your life.
Im really sorry that happend. Well it looks like you guys getting pregnant rushed the wedding a bit. Maybe he had feeling for you but he was not all the way to the love yet. If he married you is because he knew that you are the perfect person for him and that he was and would fall in love with you. He might of ';loved'; you but it took him a bit to fall ';In love'; it happends to everyone. Women tend to fall more rapidly and quicker than men do. If he married you is because he really did love you and it was probably hard for him to addmit. It happend to me too at the beginning of my relationship, my b/f just did not want to let his feelings go. he was scared, he was hurt before but I gave it time. We've been dating for now 4 years and now we are engaged. Maybe thats what happend to your husband. Just give time some time. Hes probably trying to protect himself from hurt or not treating you nice not to get so attached. Things went kind of fast with your relationship as it is.


As farest him not treating you very nice. Thats a no no! Dont matter who it is you should know that you deserve better. When he does things that you do not like let him know politely. You are not his made, you are not his waiter, you are his wife and the mother of HIS kids. let him know you will like some respect. Please dont let this problem get too big. You should sit down and talk to him about what he wants, what you want and your feelings openly. A marriage is built mostly on communication and trust. he lied? Yes. but he probably did it to protect you because he knew it will hurt you and then maybe decided that it was best to be honest. This seems a bit like if you guys did not know eachother well when you married.


If you care about your marriage, try to work it out but if he treats you that bad and you can tell that the relationship gives you more pain than happiness is time to have a serious talk.
leave him!!!he just wants you to do stuff for him
Can you tell you moved a little too fast here? Look deep before you leap. I hope you can work it out, but if he says he doesn't love you, you'll only be miserable trying to make somebody stay. Sometimes moving on hurts, but you;ll be a better person for. Next time take time out to know a person in and out as much as you can.
Get over it. He says he loves you now.
Dump him, he's not worth this ****.
Leave this dumbass loser





How can you stay with someone who doesn't love you





Do you value yourself that little





Get the hell outta there!
He loves you now and that is what is important. You all barely knew each other before you got pregnant but he was a man and married you anyway. He could have ran off and never been there for you and the baby.





Don't crush him for being honest with you or he won't be anymore. You all have been together for two years now. Keep living happily and raising your child. The past is the past.





Good luck!
Do you believe he loves you? Do you love him? If you love him and believe he loves you, the past should stay in the past...it doesn't matter anymore.





If you don't love him, or are certain he doesn't love you, then you need to reconsider the marriage, as that will be bad for your child.





Sounds like marriage counseling would be a very good idea.
It sounds like he is using you. Leave him and enjoy looking after your baby. Enjoy living alone for awhile and then go find someone that does love and respect you.
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  • Haha i love ipod shuffle surveys?

    put ur ipod on shuffle and push next for every question. that songs ur answer








    What is your name? this years love


    How old are you? unholy confessions


    How old do you act? last resort


    Where are you from? situations


    What gender are you? i hope you choke


    What were your first words? i just wanna live


    Do you have any nicknames? plush


    Are you single? pretty rave girl


    Are you taken? tree villaage


    Are you married? reckless


    Are you divorced? too close for missles, im switching to guns


    Are you engaged? myspace


    How many children do you want to have? wwhat your fantasy


    How many children do you have? photofinish


    %26lt;(^_^)%26lt;


    What is your favorite food? sexy


    What do you do on rainy days? as you sleep


    How do you deal with problems? thirteen


    What makes you happy? aint i


    What makes you sad? break my fall \


    What makes you mad? a song for a broken heart


    Do you have any bad habits? closer


    How far are you willing to go in a relationship? scream


    Where were you last night? never enough


    What do you usually dream about? the ganster song


    Do you believe in magic? trust


    Do you believe in ghosts? wishing well


    Do you believe in God? soul meets body


    %26gt;(^_^)%26gt;


    Is your mom alive? love story


    Is your dad alive? holler till you pass out


    Are funerals fun? like a stone


    Do you hate anyone? Why? dragon backpack, ashley hates walmart


    Do you love anyone? Who? be somebody, she woulndt be gone


    Do you get along well with your family? he is the water


    (锟絗x;鈾?x锟斤拷)


    What will your wedding be like? fuer frei


    What kind of wedding cake will you have? damaged


    How many presents will you + your husband/wife have? hero of war


    The first song you %26amp; your husband/wife will dance to is: the irony of dieing on your birthday


    This is what you %26amp; your husband/wife will do during the honeymoon: makeup


    Your first job will be: college kids


    Your child`s name will be: waking up in vegas


    The worst thing that will happen to you will be: scars


    The best thing that will happen to you is: dragging dead bodys


    This song will be you + your husband/wife`s song: rocketshiptothemoon


    Whenever something good happens you`'ll scream: the flood


    Whenever something bad happens you`ll scream: dangerous


    +%26lt;3;


    What is your current mood? when i first saw you


    What was your mood this morning? heart surgery isnt that bad


    What was your mood last night? if i fall


    What do most people think about you? she's an angel


    Do you agree? running from lions


    What was your mood when you woke up? should've said no


    What annoys you the most? the girls in their summer dresses


    +鈾?


    What color are your eyes? see you in my nightmares


    What color is your hair? paralyzer


    What is your skin color? price of company


    Your personality is labelled as: first time


    When you were younger who was your best friend? the kids


    When you were younger what did you want to be when you grew up? regulate


    Have you changed your mind? eyes wide shut


    Do you have a cat/dog? heads or teals or real or not


    What is it's name? zee deveel


    Well, you can rename it right now, it's new name is: single ladies


    Does it meow/bark at you a lot? rescue me


    Has it ever bit you? drag you down


    Has it ever scratched you? bad girlfriend


    Are you guilty of liking barbies/polly pockets/bratz when you were younger? sleepwalker


    Are you a 90's kid? she will be love


    Do you miss all the 90's cartoons? lollipop


    Doesn't it suck that the rugrats grew up? whatever it take


    +


    What do you think about yoyo's? wires and the concept of breathing


    Are you good at making graphic art? wishing well


    Are you guilty of graffiti? crawling


    Are you a couch potato? home


    What's it like to be a ghost? this aint a scene it an arms race


    Do you like the smell of fire? holly would you turn me on


    Aren't m%26amp;m's yummy? she loves me not





    As you enter heaven, instead of welcome, God will say: i love college


    God will point at you and yell: woo hoo


    When you enter hell you start to think: shake


    When Satan offers to give you a hug, you say: keys to the bakery


    When you get revived from the dead you will say this: mood rings


    When you say hello to all your relatives they will say: black metal em kid


    It will say this on your grave: know your enemy


    垄锟斤拷*


    Take the first line of this song + give us a quote out of it. are you strong enough do you feel my touch you are the comfort in my eyes


    Do you like animal crackers? ima monster


    Are you a ballerina? ex machina


    Do you believe in leperchauns? lovegame


    Why does the trix bunny like trix so much? who i am hates who ive been


    What time is it? the loss


    Are you in shape? the party scene


    Are you furry? first date


    Can I hug you? the artificial


    Do you stay up late? light on


    Do you even have enough songs to complete this survey? the boys of summer


    As you`Haha i love ipod shuffle surveys?
    That's a lot. o_O


    I'll only do like half of it.





    What is your name?: Sugar


    How old are you?: Wonderwall


    How old do you act?: Failure To Excommunicate


    Where are you from?: Say


    What gender are you?: Fallen Man


    What were your first words?: I Kissed A Girl


    Do you have any nicknames?: Famous Last Words


    Are you single?: Rusted From The Rain


    Are you taken?: Goats On A Boat


    Are you married?: Up Against The Ropes


    Are you divorced?: Clearer Now


    Are you engaged?: Dogs Can Grow Beards All Over


    How many children do you want to have?: Hallelujah


    How many children do you have?: Say It Ain't So


    What is your favorite food?: Trip


    What do you do on rainy days?: Circus


    How do you deal with problems?: Bitemarks And Bloodstains


    What makes you happy?: What's Left Of Me


    What makes you sad?: Love In This Club


    What makes you mad?: My Pet Monster


    Do you have any bad habits?: Orchestra Of Wolves


    How far are you willing to go in a relationship?: Control


    Where were you last night?: Now That You Got It


    What do you usually dream about?: The Guillotine


    Do you believe in magic?: GirlfriendHaha i love ipod shuffle surveys?
    Well since I'm bored/ to lazy to do something more productive, here you go:


    What is your name? La La


    How old are you? run it remix


    How old do you act? i'm da man


    Where are you from? life of a star


    What gender are you? a little too not over you


    What were your first words? give ya


    Do you have any nicknames? that's what its made for


    Are you single? promise ring


    Are you taken? catch my breath


    Are you married? lovebug


    Are you divorced? be without you


    Are you engaged? we all want the same thing


    How many children do you want to have? hey baby


    How many children do you have? one wish


    %26lt;(^_^)%26lt;


    What is your favorite food? i need a girl part 2


    What do you do on rainy days? the little things


    How do you deal with problems? promise


    What makes you happy? that girl


    What makes you sad? 1st class girl


    What makes you mad? fool for you


    Do you have any bad habits? birthday sex


    How far are you willing to go in a relationship? like i am


    Where were you last night? keep on keepin on


    What do you usually dream about? shake


    Do you believe in magic? how to touch a girl


    Do you believe in ghosts? let it go


    Do you believe in God? what's my name


    %26gt;(^_^)%26gt;


    Is your mom alive? official girl


    Is your dad alive? damn thing


    Are funerals fun? act II: t.i.


    Do you hate anyone? Why? love, hero


    Do you love anyone? Who? stay, that's how you like it


    Do you get along well with your family? i love college


    (锟絗x;鈾?x锟斤拷)


    What will your wedding be like? grown woman


    What kind of wedding cake will you have? crazy bit#h


    How many presents will you + your husband/wife have? poetry


    The first song you %26amp; your husband/wife will dance to is: halleiujah


    This is what you %26amp; your husband/wife will do during the honeymoon: s on my chest


    Your first job will be: photograph


    Your child`s name will be: shake it off


    The worst thing that will happen to you will be: sooner than later





    omg that's long and I'm done
    What is your name?


    Whiskey girl





    How old are you?


    So what





    How old do you act?


    Pulling me back





    Where are you from?


    gangsta lovin





    What gender are you?


    All i have





    What were your first words?


    bossy





    Do you have any nicknames?


    In ya phone





    Are you single?


    In this skin





    Are you taken?


    Happy





    Are you married?


    Cry





    Are you divorced?


    If i were a boy





    Are you engaged


    Blame it on the alcohol





    How many children do you want to have?


    Wifey





    How many children do you have?


    You are not alone





    What is your favorite food?


    Baby its you!





    What do you do on rainy days?


    Mosh





    How do you deal with problems?


    Let me love you





    What makes you happy?


    my diary





    What makes you sad?


    joy ride





    What makes you mad?


    I can love you like that





    Do you have any bad habits?


    Only you





    How far are you willing to go in a relationship?


    Love like honey





    Where were you last night?


    Girlfriend





    What do you usually dream about?


    Circle





    Do you believe in magic?


    say goodbye





    Do you believe in ghosts?


    hot in here





    Do you believe in God?


    lovers and friends





    Is your mom alive?


    goin crazy





    Is your dad alive?


    Too late





    Are funerals fun?


    we belong together





    Do you hate anyone? Why?


    Don't wanna lose you now





    Do you love anyone? Who?


    if i ain't got you





    Do you get along well with your family?


    You don't have to let go





    What will your wedding be like?


    my way home





    What kind of wedding cake will you have?


    here i am





    How many presents will you and your husband/wife have?


    touch it





    The first song you %26amp; your husband/wife will dance to is:


    In this club





    This is what you %26amp; your husband/wife will do during the honeymoon:


    I wanna F*ck you dirty (lol)





    Your first job will be:


    overprotected





    Your child`s name will be:


    beep





    The worst thing that will happen to you will be:


    jumpin jumpin





    The best thing that will happen to you is:


    ghetto gospel





    This song will be you + your husband/wife`s song:


    the first cut is the deepest





    Whenever something good happens you`'ll scream:


    unwell





    Whenever something bad happens you`ll scream:


    a song for mama





    What is your current mood?


    Livin on a prayer





    What was your mood this morning?


    i want it that way





    What was your mood last night? i


    the last time





    What do most people think about you?


    i love this bar





    Do you agree?


    tie my hands





    What was your mood when you woke up?


    lucky





    What annoys you the most?


    God bless the broken road





    What color are your eyes?


    Anywhere





    What color is your hair?


    I wish





    What is your skin color?


    Hey mr. DJ





    Your personality is labelled as:


    forever





    When you were younger who was your best friend?


    want it need it





    When you were younger what did you want to be when you grew up?


    my hood





    Have you changed your mind?


    bellybutton





    Do you have a cat/dog?


    cash flow





    What is it's name?


    waterfalls





    Well, you can rename it right now, it's new name is:


    i guess thats why they call it the blues





    Does it meow/bark at you a lot?


    till the day i die





    Has it ever bit you?


    Your girl





    Has it ever scratched you?


    halo





    Are you guilty of liking barbies/polly pockets/bratz when you were younger?


    burn it up





    Are you a 90's kid?


    love you more





    Do you miss all the 90's cartoons?


    whose loving you





    Doesn't it suck that the rugrats grew up?


    ride for you





    What do you think about yoyo's?


    duffle bag boy





    Are you good at making graphic art?


    so fly





    Are you guilty of graffiti?


    no scrubs





    Are you a couch potato?


    still on it





    What's it like to be a ghost?


    unpretty





    Do you like the smell of fire?


    cater to you





    Aren't m%26amp;m's yummy?


    Goldigger





    As you enter heaven, instead of welcome, God will say:


    pop lock n drop it (LOL)





    God will point at you and yell:


    ive it to you





    When you enter hell you start to think:


    satisfy you





    When Satan offers to give you a hug, you say:


    P.S i'm still not over you





    When you get revived from the dead you will say this:


    crazy in love





    When you say hello to all your relatives they will say:


    resentment





    It will say this on your grave:


    live like you were dying (haha good one)





    Take the first line of this song + give us a quote out of it.


    aaaaahhhhaahahhahaaaa baby that's a what i like.. '; lydia oh lydia i wish i could get ridda ya


    ';





    Do you like animal crackers?


    Crack a bottle





    Are you a ballerina?


    Angel





    Do you believe in leperchauns?


    Remember me





    Why does the trix bunny like trix so much?


    suck it or not





    What time is it?


    mockingbird





    Are you in shape?


    how you gonna act like that





    Are you furry?


    The real slim shady





    Can I hug you?


    rehab





    Do you stay up late?


    she got her own





    Do you even have enough songs to complete this survey?


    smooth criminal
    Wow..that's a pretty long survey...you got there!
    il do some


    What is your name? down with the sickness- disturbed


    How old are you? burned us alive- eightteen visios


    How old do you act? pain- jimmy eat world


    Where are you from? im not jesus- apotaclyptica


    What gender are you? same direction- hoobastank


    What were your first words? sex type thing- stp


    Do you have any nicknames? come as you are- nirvana


    Are you single? razor blade kiss- h.i.m.


    Are you taken? mammoth- interpol


    Are you married? hey you- the exies


    Are you divorced? the piano knows something i dont know- patd


    Are you engaged? all or nothing- theory of a deadman


    How many children do you want to have? the crimson- atreyu


    How many children do you have? sick love song- motley crue


    you got a good taste in music
    omfgg
    oh my gosh! you like BOTDF?


    you are awesome!

    Remembering past loves. Fair to your life partner?

    I'm a pretty rational person, and I love my husband and plan to always be with him. Yet I often have very vivid dreams about a particular past love, that won't stop recurring. Every so often, like once a year, or two years, I start thinking about him and wondering how he is and what went wrong with us or rather what could have been. I cant stop this happening. Does anyone else have this? I have to say again I am totally happy and settled with my husband. But in a way, I had to choose between the two as I met them and fell in love around withing the same year (complicated). And I don't use the work 'love' lightly as I have only had 2 real loves in my life, although I have had plenty of other boyfriends. What are your thoughts?Remembering past loves. Fair to your life partner?
    The fact of the matter is, your past is part of your life, and it cannot be erased. It should be fair to your life partner when you remember things like past boyfriends. If he loves you, he will embrace your past as well. And if he really does love you, he wouldn't question anything or be uncomfortable with things like this. As for thinking about other past loves and what to do about it, go with the flow is my approach. Thinking too much can really confuse your brain and you won't react rationally after a while(without being conscious of it) and you'll regret it later. My advice is simply just to be happy and don't think! Haha, hard, i know! :) Good luck.Remembering past loves. Fair to your life partner?
    It's all about you, isn't it?
    That's normal because everyone has past loves in their life. Everyone dreams about them.


    Husbands realize we women have had past loves that we always remember and they accept it. Mine does.


    My husband knows about my past 2 loves and I know about his three. It's in the past and we never forget the past. We always dream about the past.





    Every year I dream/think about my first fiance who was murdered in 1993. Then there is my first ';partner'; whom I dated for four months who I wonder about, but know has been married for the past seven years to someone who tolerates him.


    I met my husband months after my first fiance died and after I knew my first ';partner';. My first ';partner'; never loved me back, but my first fiance was my soulmate. I love my husband, but not the same way I loved my soulmate. I hope that makes sense.





    You're not alone in this.
    You had only two real loves in your life. The reason why the previous one keeps popping


    up in your memory is because it did have the chance to mature and metamorphose into habit. The actual one has become a piece of museum.





    I hope you don't share your memories with your husband because he might decide to rush you into a change from an old fantasy into a new reality which will cause you a lot of pain.